Sexuality, and “good sex”, is about far more than intercourse and orgasm.
It is about open energy, profound emotion, connection to others, and the way we think about and relate to ourselves and others.
Dr. Gina Ogden is one of the luminaries in the field of Sexology, and supervised me throughout my certification process to become a Certified Sex Therapist. I was drawn to Gina’s work because, based on an enormous body of research on sexuality, she developed the 4-Dimensional Wheel (4-D Wheel), which provides a template for us to orient ourselves: Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit.
Often times, we become “stuck” in our sexual stories (“There’s something wrong with me because I don’t desire sex enough”; “My partner doesn’t desire me, and I don’t feel attractive”)…or we get weighed down by our emotions (“I don’t feel close, so I don’t feel open to being physically intimate”; “Based on my history, I feel huge shame, anxiety or embarrassment when it comes to sex”; “I’m not ‘in love’ with my spouse anymore”). Perhaps we experience physical difficulties or sexual pain, (Dyspareunia, Vaginismus, difficulty getting and/or keeping an erection), or a deep sense of disconnection.
The 4-D Wheel provides a way to step into and step out of each of these four dimensions, so that we may expand our perspectives, and manifest change.