Do you and your partner struggle with issues around sexual intimacy, and this impacts the way you feel about yourself and each other?
Does this undermine the happiness and closeness in your relationship?
Do you struggle to navigate issues around aging, physical health, your own sexual / erotic preferences, as they differ from your partner’s?
Because sexual problems affect how people feel about themselves and each other, their existence can undermine the happiness and psychological safety of the relationship. This reality can also make it challenging for people to turn sexual problems around on their own.
Some of the concerns people bring to Sex Therapy include:
- Lack or loss of sexual desire
- Desire differences (“I want sex frequently, but my partner isn’t interested”)
- “Performance Issues” (Inability to orgasm, either alone, or with a partner; difficulties either getting or maintaining erection; difficulties with ejaculatory control; “I can’t make my partner happy in the bedroom, so I just avoid it altogether”)
- Feelings of embarrassment or shame about your body and sexual functioning
- Interference of porn (“My partner watches porn, and is less interested in me”; “I’ve been masturbating to porn so frequently that it’s difficult for me to become aroused with my partner”)
“As a wise woman once said to me, sex isn’t everything, but it is a part of everything”. – Gina Ogden, PhD
- I believe that sexuality can be a source of pleasure, joy, and a language of connection. Understanding our own sexual selves, what our bodies like / dislike, and what we find pleasurable is vital, in order to connect with someone else.
- Talking about sex is often uncomfortable. I support clients to do this together in my office with respect, curiosity, and levity. I am sex-positive and provide non-judgmental support for all orientations, preferences, and orientations that are consensual and non-exploitive. I consider the work that I do with clients around expanding their sexual pleasure expression sexual and social justice.