Do you and your partner experience disconnection & a lack of intimacy?
Do you struggle with repetitive and unproductive conflict?
Do you lack a collaborative alliance around co-parenting, finances, or the running of your household?
Have you recently discovered or disclosed an affair, and find your relationship in crisis?
Some of the concerns couples bring to Couples Therapy include:
- Lack of intimacy (“we feel like roommates”, “I often feel distant and disconnected from my partner”; “we aren’t ‘in love’ any more, and don’t connect emotionally or sexually”)
- Relationship crisis (infidelity, financial difficulty, “I’ve partnered/married the wrong person, and am ready to give up”)
- Navigating developmental challenges to the relationship (transitioning to parenthood, “empty nest”, aging)
“Relationships are human growing machines” – David Schnarch, PhD
- I believe that conflict and disappointment do not mean that your relationship needs to end. Finding more effective ways to “hold onto yourself” (ie: how do I step back, settle myself, and remain grounded) can help you understand and be understood. You can become stronger, and actually feel closer to your partner as you become more skillful in navigating dissonance in your relationship.
- When working with couples, both individuals are ‘the client’, not the relationship. Our counseling process will include my meeting you above your limitations, so that you may confront yourself in order to grow your tolerance for discomfort. Through this process, I will support you to cultivate the kind of loving, intimate, and collaborative relationship you long for.